12 Signs It's Time To Leave Your Man, According To "One Of Them Days"

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If he's coming between you and your bestie, it might be time to think about things.

Ladies, we've all had one of those days, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Your feelings are involved, you put in time so you and your partner can build a foundation, and your emotions are 100% invested. But people often forget that just because there’s time spent doesn’t mean you have to spend your energy dealing with drama. If that hit home, then you need to watch Issa Rae’s One Of Them Days and take notes on when it’s time to pack your bags and go, especially when you constantly find yourself being sucked back into a situation that brings nothing but stress. Ain’t nobody got time for that (IYKYK).

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If you’re stuck, here are 12 signs it’s time to drop your man and move on:

1. He lives with you and your best friend, but he doesn’t pay rent.

Two individuals in a casual setting. One wears a tank top with "WHO CARES" text; the other wears a black tube top. Both have serious expressions

2. He has six new pairs of Jordans, but doesn’t have money for bills.

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3. You ask him to drop rent off with the landlord, but the landlord finds you a week later asking why your rent is late.

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4. He forces you to take on the neighborhood bully so that you can pay rent.

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5. He tells you he hooked up with another woman, and you find him at her house.

6. You realize your feelings for him are a little too electrifying.

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7. He’s coming between you and your best friend.

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8. He takes off his shirt to distract you whenever it’s time to have a serious conversation.

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9. He has you doing things you would normally never do.

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10. His career goals involve launching a knock-off clothing brand.

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11. He’s the reason your hair is messed up and he can’t pay for you to get it redone.

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12. He says he's only ready to commit after you reach your glow-up era.

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Stay with the one who holds you down when you’re down, not the one that only shows up when you’re on top. When he calls, tell him he’s the weakest link and say goodbye!

One of Them Days is now playing in theaters.

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